Guys, Your Girlfriends Want to See the Real You

Women are happier when their boyfriends act authentically instead of doing things just to please them or avoid punishment, according to a new study from researchers at the University of Florida. They say heterosexual relationships become more fulfilling when men allow their girlfriends to see them for who they really are by acting according to their own values and preferences.
But the really interesting thing is that guys didn’t seem to much care whether women reveal their true selves. Psychologist Gregory Webster says he’s not sure how to explain the gender difference:

other than there is a tendency for women to base more of how they’re doing in a relationship on how happy their partner is. Since women are frequently the ones ‘in charge’ of intimacy in the relationship, when men strive for openness and honesty the women’s job of regulating intimacy is made easier.

It’s also worth noting that the study’s participants were all undergraduate students, and “at that stage,” Webster explains in a write-up of the research, “women are more mature in their relationship styles than men. It could be that women at that age pay more attention to a partner’s authenticity than the other way around.”
Girls should also keep in mind that women who acted authentically has greater personal well-being and functioned better in their relationships—they were more intimate and less destructive—which increased their boyfriends’ satisfaction.

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  1. Brad Blanton says:

    Hate to say I told you so, but I told you so. Brad Blanton, author of Radical Honesty

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