Does Prayer Make You More Forgiving?

From Tom Rees of Epiphenom:

Widely reported last week was a study on prayer and forgiveness. It’s by the same crew that gave us the study last year on prayer and gratitude, and has (broadly speaking) the same methodological concerns (it only recruited students who already pray and uses measures that are difficult to interpret).
But, to be fair, this is an interventional study of the effects of prayer that is basically sound, and the authors deserve kudos for trying to assess this unfashionable area. So what did it show?
Well, they recruited 67 Christian students in Florida and asked them either to pray for a friend or to pray without specifying what for or to think positive thoughts about their friend. They had to do this every day for four weeks.
Then they measured the degree of forgiveness they felt toward their friend. As the graph shows, forgiveness was greatest in the “pray for a friend” group.

They suggest that the reason for this is that prayer creates a generalized feeling of selflessness, although this seems theoretically unlikely to me and the evidence they provide for it is rather tendentious.
So what do we know about prayer? Well, brain scans suggest that praying is much like talking to a friend. So maybe talking to a confidant about a third party helps to generate forgiveness.
Furthermore, although they didn’t measure the beliefs of the participants, it’s likely (given the local culture) that many of them believed in an active, personal god who can step in to change things in the world around them—including other people.
It’s much easier to have forgiving thoughts about people if you think that they are going to change. If these students thought that praying for someone is sufficient to change them for the better, it seems very likely that would made them feel more forgiving.

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  1. Dean Wilber says:

    I’ve been reading a lot how social rejection is experienced as pain and social acceptance as pleasure. With forgiveness – first one party injures the other which the other experiences as rejection and then the other rejects the one because of the injury. When the other forgives he no longer rejects the one and he no longer feels the rejection of being injured. This requires a change in belief, and I don’t know how that works exactly but I think it involves activating the NAcc in the brain. Furthermore, I think religion is about relieving shame.

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